Let Your Husband Help You


I want my Husband to trust me, to be confident in me and my abilities to keep our home.

But sometimes, especially in certain seasons in life, I need a bit of help. . . .shocker?!?!

No, not at all. . .I'm human and I will come up short. Way short.

However, I'm blessed to have a husband who realizes that being the keeper of the home doesn't always fit into a neat, little 9am-5pm box. Life happens. . .BIG TIME.

So, he cooked breakfast this morning and washed up last night's dishes (I know, last night's dishes!); a couple of nights ago, he put the left-overs away while I tended to the baby; he tries to come up with strategies for making grocery shopping easier*; he orders food once in a while to lighten my cooking tasks, he's suggested that he can pitch in on the weekends to help with cleaning. . .

What woman wouldn't want a husband who does things like this? Well, I have to admit that I fought him on some of them, thinking that if I accepted his help, that meant that he would think less of me, less of my ability to "get it all done."
Pure. Foolishness. I know.

What I realize is that when my husband sees a need, he seeks a solution. Instead of me hearing his suggestions as "criticism," I should hear them as "wise counsel."
What I also realize is that when I am in need and I reject his help, it is then that he feels like he cannot safely trust in me and my abilities. (Let that sink in for a moment--it hit me, too!)

Accepting his help gives him the confidence to know that: I am not too proud, I'm wise enough to take advantage of his help, and he can trust that in the future when I need his assistance, I'll be faithful to accept it.

To sum it all up, I have to let my husband help me if I want him to be confident in me. It's cyclical folks!

The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
-Proverbs 31:11

*Homeschooling Moms of 4 or more, how do/did you go grocery shopping when your children were small?*

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10 comments:

  1. That is preciously beautiful, very well spoken. Thank you.

    Sassy

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  2. This is so wise, Stacie! You are blessed to have a godly husband who loves you as Christ loves His Church and pours Himself out for Her. And he is blessed to have a godly wife!! For her worth is far above rubies!! :)

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  3. Hi Sassy,

    Thank you for your comment. God bless you!

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  4. Anne,

    Thanks! We're striving to be what God wants...thanks for your example and your encouragement.

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  5. Lovely post, thank you for this encouragement.

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  6. Mooberry Farmwife,

    Thank you so much.
    God bless you!

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  7. What a great way of looking at it!

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  8. Thanks, Working Mom!
    God bless you; have a great week.

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  9. So true Stacie, I had to learn this the hard way. Thank you for such an insightful and wise post(:

    Take care lady!!

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  10. Gertha,

    Me too. . .to be honest, sometimes I still learn it the hard way! But God is gracious and He continues to mold me.

    God bless you lady!

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