I'm sure I'm not the only homeschooling mom that's been told by a non-homeschooling mom,
"I don't see how you can do it! I'm just not patient enough to homeschool!"
And my immediate thought is, "What makes you think I'm patient enough?!" Clearly this dear woman hasn't heard my "gruffy voice," as my kids call it, when things aren't going according to plan.

Somewhere out there in Mommy-land, non-homeschooling mothers automatically assume that homeschooling moms have been endowed with some supernatural host of powers, including an ever-flowing, overflowing cup of patience, that not only allows them to stay at home with their own children, but educate them, too!

News flash: there are no super powers--except the power of God.

The truth is homeschooling moms are moms first, which means we are human, too. We love our children dearly but some days they drive us up the wall.We don't have it together all the time, our babies wake up a bazillion times each night, too and we'd rather not have to unclog toilets while drilling math facts. We are also trying to be the best wives, mothers, and homeschool teachers, while balancing homemaking, cooking dinner, running errands, nap times, school work, volunteering, date night, and on and on.
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So what's the secret? Why are we wild enough to want to be with our kids all day, every day?

Well, I'll speak for myself and say. . .
It's the power of God that enables me to remain committed. Plain and simple.

You see, on this Christian journey, we are to develop patience, let it grow and mature.
"My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him." -James 1:2-5
This suggests that none of us are just given all the patience we need up front. It is something that must be cultivated, that we need the Holy Spirit to work within (Galatians 5:22). And let me tell you, being at home and teaching all of my children is certainly an opportunity for just that.

So for the mom who will allow her faith to be tried, stretched and tested by staying at home and teaching her children, the reward is a bit more patience coupled with wisdom. Nope, it doesn't come easy, but the fruit it produces makes the work worth doing.

I realize that one day the baby will sleep through the night and nursing sessions will end. One day my little one won't need help with getting dressed or letters. I know that one day my child will take over reading the stories and math facts will be memorized.  They'll go on to writing term papers and higher learning and beyond. As the old saying goes: the days are long, but the years are short. Homeschooling and time just spent together allows you the chance to seize every opportunity with your children and make the most of it.

So, to the mamas out there who are considering homeschooling but feel you don't have what it takes--I'm here to tell you that all you need is a willing heart. Know that God has called you Mother and will give you everything you need to raise your children up before Him, including educating them at home. You can do this.

Don't worry about having enough patience, it will come.

Originally written for Our Homeschool Forum.

Patient Enough to Homeschool

by on Sunday, March 20, 2016
I'm sure I'm not the only homeschooling mom that's been told by a non-homeschooling mom, "I don't see how you can...

The more children you have, the fewer the celebratory responses.

Sad, but true--I've been there.

It can be difficult when people don't "get" you and your family life.

It's hard when you remember how excited friends and family used to be for your first or second baby . . . and then you watch as that excitement gives way to bewilderment, perplexities, rudeness, lack of understanding, compassion or tact . . .

It's one thing to be questioned or mocked by the random lady in the grocery store; it's a totally different thing to have those closest to you act just like that random lady in the grocery store . . .snide remarks, indifference, no kind words . . .

So, mama, what do you do when the baby showers stop and the "congratulations" end?

Here is what I am learning to do. . .

First, remember this above all else:
Each life should always be celebrated, no matter how many, as each one is a miracle straight from the hand of God. He gives life and calls it good.
Next, party at home with your husband and children and celebrate that life any way! Seriously, though, do not let your joy fade or be stamped out. Embrace your growing belly, love the life within, do not be ashamed or apologetic for the joy a little one brings. Praise God for the wonder He has worked within.

Stay focused on the task at hand. Although it may feel like it, you are not ambassador to the world whose job it is to explain why you have that many kids. Instead, God has called you wife and mother. That is your duty, your top priority: love your husband and your kids, focus on their care and well-being, and make your house a godly home. And should the Lord add to your family along the way, welcome every one of those babes, but don't lose sight. Stay focused.

We may never understand the in's and out's of why people react to more children the way they do. Perhaps it's their own up-bringing, or maybe it's not knowing how to react to a culture that screams against more than 2 kids. Maybe it's the pain of not being able to conceive or perhaps spouses do not agree. Maybe it just is what it is and they can't fathom at all why anyone would be open to more children. . .

The reality is, it isn't our job to figure it out and work through it all with the lady in the check-out line, or around the Thanksgiving dinner table at your mom's house. Yes, it's frustrating, and it can even be heart-breaking, but that is not your load to carry.

What we have to do is continue to joyfully labor in the field that God has placed us in. Continue planting those seeds in His Name, and in time, we will reap a bountiful harvest. (Galatians 6:9)
Let that stand on it's own, let that be the "explanation" we give to others.
Blessed is every one who fears the Lord,
Who walks in His ways.
When you eat the labor of your hands,
You shall be happy, and it shall be well with you.
Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine
In the very heart of your house,
Your children like olive plants
All around your table.
Behold, thus shall the man be blessed
Who fears the Lord.
The Lord bless you out of Zion,
And may you see the good of Jerusalem
All the days of your life.
Yes, may you see your children’s children.
Peace be upon Israel! 
~Psalm 128 

When No One Celebrates

by on Saturday, March 05, 2016
The more children you have, the fewer the celebratory responses. Sad, but true--I've been there. It can be difficult when people ...
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