The view from my front door

My region of the country is right in the middle of a blizzard.

It snowed from Friday afternoon until Sunday morning.

Today, the sun is shining.

I'm glad to be snowed in with my favorite people.

I thank God for the provisions He's provided for my household, 
for it is by His hand we have been fed.


Scripture and Snapshot

Blizzard Happenings

by on Sunday, January 24, 2016
The view from my front door My region of the country is right in the middle of a blizzard. It snowed from Friday afternoon until S...


Early on in my marriage, people gave all types of advice on the various ways my husband and I should approach having children--from waiting until the time was "right" to how many we should have. You name it, we've heard it.

There was also the advice on age ranges:
Make sure you don't have your kids too close together! Too close together and there will be sibling rivalry.



But then. . . .
You don't want them too far apart! Too far apart and they won't be able to relate to each other or have anything in common.




My thought was that all sounded conflicting and either way, someone wouldn't be pleased. What should I do?

Simple answer: Let the Lord have His way.

I am here to tell you, both are myths: I have children as close as 14 months apart, and as far as 12 years apart. A competitive child will be competitive no matter how close or far apart they are from another sibling. Finding common ground has more to do with attitude and perspective, not age.




The point is, the spaces in ages are what they are, but what is most important is the environment in which you raise your gifts from God. Unhealthy competition can be channeled into ways to promote teamwork amongst siblings, instilling in the children that the family is a team. We win and lose together, and certainly don't try to "one-up" each other. We teach our children to celebrate one another, to rejoice with one another and to show compassion when someone is down.

Common ground, the other myth, isn't so difficult to deal with either. Each person will have a set of interests that are all their own. However, we are a family and have always enjoyed doing things as a family, whether that be singing songs, playing games, or cooking together. Common ground is first established by mom and dad and the children spring board off of that.




Also, younger siblings give older ones the chance to serve, to realize what they were like as babies and toddlers, and even gives them the opportunity to show the little ones how to play something they used to enjoy at that age. In return, the little ones see even more examples of kindness and patience. They also learn to respect boundaries and property by not disturbing an older one's project or musical instrument or whatever they may deem as "off limits."




It is such a cyclical blessing to watch the children learn from each other, to learn to communicate with each other, to figure out how to work through their challenges and to lavish each other with love and care and heaping doses of grace.

I watch the ways they watch each other, and my heart is doubly blessed. I get to see glimpses of my older daughters' mothering skills, the way they may deal with a minor toddler meltdown, the way they rock a baby, how they do the silliest things to make their siblings laugh. I get to see my oldest son's confidence be boosted because he realizes that 2 younger brothers are doing everything he does and he's eager to show them the way. I see how the little ones look up to the older ones, yet feel like they belong right in the mix of everything, not shunned or pushed away.




Again, spaces in ages are what they are--it's the home life environment that matters most, what is taught, what parents expect from their children as family members. Sure there are rough patches and bumpy roads, hard seasons and tough times. But overall, home life should be a blessed life, no matter how close or far apart your children are. The family dynamic can be such a sweet blessing from God when we cultivate it according to His Word, and worry less about what the world says our families should look like.



Spaces in Ages

by on Wednesday, January 20, 2016
Early on in my marriage, people gave all types of advice on the various ways my husband and I should approach having children--from wai...
Happy New Year, ladies!

My family and I have some sweet news to share. . . .


Once again, I am thankful that God has graced my womb with life. . .eight times. . .
My heart swells with gratitude over and over . . .
It is humbling, overwhelming, shocking, and joyous at the same time. . .
God is good like that.

I never, ever imagined that I would be a mom to a little brood of children. I never thought my husband and I would say things like:
"Two large pizzas won't feed the family!" or "A 7-seater isn't gonna cut it!" or "We pretty much need an entire pew at church!"  
{{Large family problems, right? LOL}}
My husband says it all the time, "God's way is perfect." He's right and I'm so glad that God knows what's best.
"Through wisdom a house is built,
And by understanding it is established;
By knowledge the rooms are filled
With all precious and pleasant riches."
-Proverbs 24:3-4  
Being a wife and mother has molded me, shaped me, matured me, and stretched me several times over, in so many areas of life. It has sent me chasing hard after God, because it has shown me just how much I need Him, and how little I'm sure of in my own strength. God is faithful, and He's not through with me yet, as I continue to learn of Him and grow in Him.

So, I just want to take a bit of blog space to give God the praise for the things He has done.

Lord-willing, Baby Girl will be joining the family sometime in May 2016.





Growing Again

by on Monday, January 04, 2016
Happy New Year, ladies! My family and I have some sweet news to share. . . . Once again, I am thankful that God has graced my w...
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