I want my Husband to trust me, to be confident in me and my abilities to keep our home.

But sometimes, especially in certain seasons in life, I need a bit of help. . . .shocker?!?!

No, not at all. . .I'm human and I will come up short. Way short.

However, I'm blessed to have a husband who realizes that being the keeper of the home doesn't always fit into a neat, little 9am-5pm box. Life happens. . .BIG TIME.

So, he cooked breakfast this morning and washed up last night's dishes (I know, last night's dishes!); a couple of nights ago, he put the left-overs away while I tended to the baby; he tries to come up with strategies for making grocery shopping easier*; he orders food once in a while to lighten my cooking tasks, he's suggested that he can pitch in on the weekends to help with cleaning. . .

What woman wouldn't want a husband who does things like this? Well, I have to admit that I fought him on some of them, thinking that if I accepted his help, that meant that he would think less of me, less of my ability to "get it all done."
Pure. Foolishness. I know.

What I realize is that when my husband sees a need, he seeks a solution. Instead of me hearing his suggestions as "criticism," I should hear them as "wise counsel."
What I also realize is that when I am in need and I reject his help, it is then that he feels like he cannot safely trust in me and my abilities. (Let that sink in for a moment--it hit me, too!)

Accepting his help gives him the confidence to know that: I am not too proud, I'm wise enough to take advantage of his help, and he can trust that in the future when I need his assistance, I'll be faithful to accept it.

To sum it all up, I have to let my husband help me if I want him to be confident in me. It's cyclical folks!

The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
-Proverbs 31:11

*Homeschooling Moms of 4 or more, how do/did you go grocery shopping when your children were small?*

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Let Your Husband Help You

by on Monday, March 19, 2012
I want my Husband to trust me, to be confident in me and my abilities to keep our home. But sometimes, especially in certain seasons in l...
The Homeschool Mother's Journal


In my life this week…
Days are blurring together. I woke up Tuesday, thinking it was Monday. I woke up Thursday, thinking it was Friday. I am struggling. . .sometimes I feel like I'm on point and organized; many times, I'm feeling frazzled and "all over the place." New baby syndrome? Sleep deprivation? Trying to do too much? I don't know.

I've also been "practicing" taking the children out alone! :o) Our baby boy is just shy of 14 weeks, and I must say, I've leaned heavily on my Husband (and my Mom, when she was here) for running my errands. But, this week, I managed to drop off a few books at the library and a short trip to the store, with all 4 children in tow. Having 4 still seems "new" to me . . .

In our homeschool this week…
Lots of Bible reading; character study--this week on gentleness; lots of grammar review; acid rain science experiment; the life cycle of a butterfly; drawing apples.


Click the apple for directions for this project,
as well as a host of MANY other art projects for children!

I am inspired by…
Homeschooling moms who have twice as many children as me, who are diligently walking in their callings as wives and mothers. It gives me hope. . . I need you as examples and encouragement!!

My favorite thing this week was…
My sister-in-law does a "Thankful Thursday" roll call on Facebook, where she asks, "What are you thankful for today?" A friend responded, "I'm thankful that He knows my name, and I am not defined by this world." I had to stop and give Him praise the moment I read that!

What’s working for us . . .
We've been using "The Bible Experience" for some of our history lessons. It's the Bible on CD, read by actors/actresses, with a bit of background music to add to the drama and excitement of what's going on. It certainly keeps my crowd engaged, especially when we have large portions to cover. It is not paraphrased, so I can follow along, word for word with my Bible, pausing the CD to add clarity or answer questions.

What's not working for us…
***SIGH*** Where do I begin? I'm trying to coordinate my housekeeping with everything else--swim practice, schooling, diapering/feeding, exercise, etc. I'm blessed to have a full life; sometimes I do feel overwhelmed--it's the cleaning that's bugging me. I can't seem to get a good grip on my cleaning schedule.

Questions/thoughts I have…
Am I doing enough in our homeschool? What should I change? What should remain the same?
Holy Spirit, please lead me.

Things I’m working on…
A cleaning schedule! Also, I'm trying to get a chore routine going for the kiddos; if I'm not consistent then they won't be either--therein lies the problem.

I’m reading…
Seaside Reunion by Irene Hannon (my mother-in-law gave it to me. She said it was a fun, quick read. . .so far she's right!)

I’m cooking…
I made fried plantains today, as part of our wrap up on ancient Africa. They tasted great to me. . .the kids felt so-so about them.

I’m grateful for…
My family. . . and this Bible verse: "From the end of the earth I will cry to You, When my heart is overwhelmed; Lead me to the rock that is higher than I." -Psalm 61:2

I’m praying for…clarity, peace, assurance.

A photo, video, link, or quote to share…
I found this on Pinterest
Me and my baby boy
:o)



Growing Home is hosting "31 Days of Encouragement for Homeschooling Mothers." This article is a great read. It pretty much sums up what runs through my head any time someone gives me "kudos" for homeschooling my children, then proceeds to tell me why they can't homeschool their own.

Homeschooling mothers aren't "super" women. We have plenty of short-comings, we get stressed out too, we feel like we "just can't take it anymore." The ONLY difference is that we've chosen to make this schooling thing at home a priority and we're just "wild" enough to BELIEVE that GOD will give us GRACE. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

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