I want my Husband to trust me, to be confident in me and my abilities to keep our home.
But sometimes, especially in certain seasons in life, I need a bit of help. . . .shocker?!?!
No, not at all. . .I'm human and I will come up short. Way short.
However, I'm blessed to have a husband who realizes that being the keeper of the home doesn't always fit into a neat, little 9am-5pm box. Life happens. . .BIG TIME.
So, he cooked breakfast this morning and washed up last night's dishes (I know, last night's dishes!); a couple of nights ago, he put the left-overs away while I tended to the baby; he tries to come up with strategies for making grocery shopping easier*; he orders food once in a while to lighten my cooking tasks, he's suggested that he can pitch in on the weekends to help with cleaning. . .
What woman wouldn't want a husband who does things like this? Well, I have to admit that I fought him on some of them, thinking that if I accepted his help, that meant that he would think less of me, less of my ability to "get it all done."
Pure. Foolishness. I know.
What I realize is that when my husband sees a need, he seeks a solution. Instead of me hearing his suggestions as "criticism," I should hear them as "wise counsel."
What I also realize is that when I am in need and I reject his help, it is then that he feels like he cannot safely trust in me and my abilities. (Let that sink in for a moment--it hit me, too!)
Accepting his help gives him the confidence to know that: I am not too proud, I'm wise enough to take advantage of his help, and he can trust that in the future when I need his assistance, I'll be faithful to accept it.
To sum it all up, I have to let my husband help me if I want him to be confident in me. It's cyclical folks!
So he will have no lack of gain.
*Homeschooling Moms of 4 or more, how do/did you go grocery shopping when your children were small?*